This isn’t an easy site to review, because it has completely changed the dating site model from the established one, there is nothing to compare it against. This means that what we write here is pure speculation; although an educated opinion - at the end of the day, it is still just an opinion.

This is the most expensive dating site we have reviewed to date; we are also not convinced this will work for the majority of people.

We fear that because users only get the chance to communicate with those that eHarmony say are compatible, those matches will be "safe" matches. We feel that you will find someone you get along with (at least 'on paper'), and you may be compatible, and this may be enough so that you fall in love and get married.

We feel that eHarmony will have a greater success rate than other dating sites, and introduce members who many stay together long enough to get married, but as they are only introducing safe matches to each other this would be a foregone conclusion.

What potential members need to take into account is: do they want a middle of the road relationship? Most relationships that are built on compatibility end because one or the other partner ends up straying for excitement. How about partners that fall into the "Soul Mate" status. Would you get matched to those on a psych test, many of the happiest couples are so different as to be opposites completely, and would therefore not match on 'paper'.

I know that I would never get along with someone that shared the same personality traits as me. I need someone different to me so that, together, we become a whole new character.

There are also those things that someone thinks is a non-negotiable issue, like having (or not wanting) children. Smoking is a topical one at the moment. I have always stated in my profile that I would be looking for a non smoker. However, I found that having met someone who smokes (whom I would not have been matched with on 'paper') that it no longer seemed important. On'paper', I would never have been matched with this amazing woman. When I filled in my profile I meant it. I did not want to meet someone who smoked, and if asked how important that was I would have answered extremely. On eHarmony I would never have met my wife, as she smoked heavily and having recently given up myself, I didn’t want to meet anybody who smoked. We are very happy and the smoking isn’t an issue.

If you are new to the dating scene, this is a good way to get your feet wet, test the water. If you want a safe stable relationship again, I think this would be a good site.

If you are looking for your Prince Charming, or a relationship that sweeps you off your feet, makes you float on cloud 9, the ever elusive soul mate, I wouldn’t recommend this site, as in relationships of that quality individuals very rarely match on paper.

eHarmony do ask a huge amount of questions - to be able to create your psychological profile, it really makes you think about what you are looking for and about your values and beliefs. Take this into consideration when deciding if eHarmony may be the site to help you find your partner.